My daughter is turning 40 and we have been somewhat close from a distance by text, but not as close as I desire. We were not too close when she was a teenager... because I was a firm dad and she a wild teenage girl. Now 20 years later things are brewing.
I felt very honored in recent months when my daughter contacted me... which is rare... and began to confide in me and actually asked for my fatherly advice. She told me her 15 yr old daughter... my grandaughter had come out to be gay. She at 15 is involved in a relationship with an older 18 yr old girl. My daughter also expressed religeous beliefs against homosexuality and my daughter was in great turmoil over allowing this open gay relationship and request to be together dating.
I found myself with the deepest questions of my life... from my own now grown daughter. I had to think quickly before I answered. My answer was to not drive her daughter away, but accept her gay lifestyle... love her... keep open to her... but perhaps monitor her dating of this 18 yr old just as anyone would of a male.
I told my daughter that I had never permitted her at 15 to date... and certainly not an 18 year old. I reminded my daughter that I had driven off two older suiters... and one I did so with a hammer in my hand. So I advised my daughter to treat the situation as if the dater was a boy in view of age.
Your thoughts?
This is a tough one. But there isn’t much in the way of age. But, I do see your dilemma.
I didn’t allow my daughter to date until she was 16, but she was monitored by way of an app on her phone so I could keep track of her, and, of course she had to be back at the time, so it worked out well. However, your granddaughter is a 15/yo and wants to date an 18/yo? I’d think the 18/yo may want to rethink this through...unless of course she has the parents permission.
Sure. They are both young women, so they’d hardly get pregnant, but one is a young adult and the other is still a child.
This really is none of my business, but I think you steered your daughter in the right direction.