I have little idea about most of you. I share way more on here and probably shouldn't.
If you are going through marriage or relationships problems and betrayal, especially for the first time (my ex and I were high school sweethearts) it can be especially hard, but it doesn't sound like you are dealing with that.
In terms of an argument with your husband or pool boy or whoever you are talking about, not everyone can handle harsh honesty and from what I know about you, you are a direct woman.
This has nothing to do with my husband.
Goodnight