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You had quite an adventure with so far spaced births. Is true, every generation brings new ideas about parenting. Even when "we" adopted my daughter, she was not an infant or even a toddler, but still books i have read about parenting are a bit different now than those read back then. I doubt any book or "expert" or trendy advice is going to apply to all children, as every child is individual.
I look back and smile, about four yrs ago i had one child, now i am mama presiding over a fam with three 14 yro olds, an 11 yr old and a one month old. Would never have imagined this would be.  Also would not trade it for the world.

Thank you. Yours seem to have made their own place in the world which is a hallmark of good parenting. I know some older people who are very upset over their children being on their own, having their own lives. Is that not the purpose of parenting and the life you raised them to have, i always want to ask.

I always felt that the job of any parent was to give your kids the tools they needed to be good adults. We weren’t overly strict with them. I figured we needed to give them some wiggle room so they could figure things out for themselves. Our number one rule was: don’t get killed. We can work through everything else. Saw so many of my friends raise their kids in a super strict environment. Would let them do much of anything on their own or make any decisions on their own. Those were the ones that went wild when they got out on their own.