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Boo.

My buddies gf cause him boo boo.  It was annoying to me at first, but she's really nice to me and she has been supportive of me through my divorce (she doesn't like my ex) so she gets a pass and he's happy with her and I know he couldn't find anyone for a long time and he was lonely.  So I am happy that they are both very happy together.  They gonna get married next summer at the beach.

Who's that?

I assumed Boo is the person of focus of this thred.

As Tupac said, money brings b1tches and b1tches bring lies.  So it doesn't seem I'm the only one who has encountered this. 

My people picker was off with my ex-wife, but she changed and she's really good at playing the victim and good at crocodile tears.  As my sister said "she gets off trying to make people feel sorry for her."  I told her to go see a therapist cause she was depressed and all she did was complain about me to the therapist and didn't work on any of her issues.  I don't think she could even admit to a therapist that she has issues.

 We started dating when I was 17 and she was 16 and she was my first love.  People change.  When we met, she wanted children so bad and right away and I was good for that.  When my kids got older, she wanted something else I guess, but I have come to realize we didn't want the same things and I could never get her on the same page with me in terms of life goals.  She said she wanted those things, but actions speak louder than words.  So I wasn't happy with the relationship either and she needed to go.

I don't think I have changed so much though.  I'm pretty straight forward and speak my mind.  What you see is what you get for better or worse.  I don't tell lies to people.  I don't have much to lie about.  If I would lie then that would mean I'm not being my authentic self and I wouldn't like myself if I was that way.  That's why I suppose I don't ... it has more to do with me and my own standards of expectation of myself than other people.  That would be an awful way to live a life ... living and telling lies, IMO.  Why not just be the person you are lying about being or accept that you aren't that person and be who you really are?

My ex-gf, I picked up on it right away once she started lying.  She didn't fool me.  I'm not Nostradamus, tho... I can't predict who is gonna be a liar until they start lying.  I think I approach a new relationship with an open mind and hope for the best and assume a person is good, but with my eyes open and until the person demonstrates otherwise.

I am not strict or controlling when it comes to others.  I have expectations for myself, tho and I suppose I am strict with myself and people can't interfere with that or be incompatible with that.