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My parents and family are moving into their new house for the next 5 to 6 months today.  I just called my nephew and he and my brother said they are so embarrassed cause my dad is yelling and swearing in the garage and it echos and  the whole neighborhood can hear him and they tell him to shush and then he just yells louder and says he doesn't effing care ... yelling about how lazy my sister's kids are (they are) neighborhood has side walks and people walking by.

I'm so glad I'm down here.  I am not related to those people. Really about 1 week I can visit and I'm ready to go.  It's usually nice for a day or two.

I guess it's on 5 acres and they can take all the dogs and pups with them and is a nice place. So that's good.  I cannot believe that such a small fire did that much damage.  Unbelievable.  All their appliances even need to be replaced in the whole home and they have two kitchens.

My parents raised my brothers kids to be lazy too, but my nephew is growing up.  My sisters kids are the laziest and complain about doing anything.  My kids, I had friends over Saturday, they cleaned my kitchen spotless, cleaned my laundry room, dusted the down stairs and vacuumed and mopped and cleaned the bathrooms. They also do my yard.  Theybload and empty the dishwasher.  My kids are great.  I pretty much just clean my bedroom and master bath.  I had to clean and do the yard when I was a kid.  That's how I was raised.  I don't know what happened to everyone else with how they raise these kids.  They aren't going to be prepared for the real world.

I think it's okay to expose kids to technology early but once they hit 11 or 12 it's time they start doing jobs that are appropriate. Everyone can do something.  My son with autism folds all our clothes, he clears the counters of everything in my kitchen so my one done can clean them, empties dishwasher and raked out the trash from the house and out every week for pick up and brings cans in and he's naturally really tidy and keeps his bathroom and bedroom clean ... out of all my boys he's the most clean.  My other son who drives wipes down counters in kitchen after they are cleared  ... he was trained well ... the first time he did it, he wiped them down 5 times cause he wasn't doing a good job and I told him every time I find a speck he's gonna re-do all the counters again ... that's how I trained them for bathrooms too ... tell me when you are done, but if I check and something isn't spotless they clean the whole entire bathroom all over again ... it's a pain the first time, but they learn quick and if you do that drill for one task, they understand the next time they do something the first time that's how it will be and it needs to be done right ... had a meeting with state social services for my son last week and even he said "if you aren't gonna do the job right, don't do it at all" and the lady asked who told you that and he looks at me and he said my dad, lol.  I am an ENTJ personality type.  So I'm good at getting things done right.

My kids wash their own clothes but I do some too for them, but I'd say now they do the vast majority of their own washing.

That mentality is disappearing.  A lot of kids are coddled too much.

They do pretty much whatever they want to do and this does nothing to prepare them to be on their own.

They do pretty much whatever they want to do and this does nothing to prepare them to be on their own.

They'll find out eventually and will learn fast.

Just want to add, there are alot of dead beat parents that dont want to take on their responsibilities, I mean when the kids are young and they can't help themselves.

I'm lucky , all my kids and grand kids are doing good. Shout out to UT, where
the fcuk are you!!

True, and then there are those parents that think children can never do anything for themselves to include living with their parents at 40 😂

I'm lucky too, I don't have any kids.